We want our parents to live forever, with energy and health. And because we want this, it can be hard to accept when Mom or Dad needs help.
“We’ve found that a lot of families know they need help, but delay hiring at home care. That delay often has serious consequences. Instead of managing the situation and keeping their parent at home longer, delaying care often means we have to facilitate a rapid move to long-term care or a hospital,” says Kristina Bradley, owner of a Nurse Next Door franchise serving Abbotsford, Aldergrove, Langley and Surrey.
Hiring a home care Nurse or Caregiver isn’t a defeat; it’s an act of love that enables both you and your parent to live richer lives. And if you act early, you’ll not only help your parent stay healthy, you can extend the years you get to spend being a son or daughter — not an exhausted caregiver.
- Self-neglect: Changes in the cleanliness of your parent’s home or their level of personal hygiene can indicate that they’re having trouble. “Instead of criticizing what you see, offer your support. Reassure your loved one that you’re not trying to change their lifestyle or take away their independence. Your only goal is to ensure they’re comfortable at home as they age,” Bradley says.
- Memory troubles: Forgetfulness can be a natural part of aging, but if your loved one is losing track of the time of year or getting lost in familiar places you should speak with a medical professional. “Our nurses can help keep your loved one safe, and also offer exercises and companionship that can improve their memory.”
- You’re stretched too thin: Taking on the responsibility of caring for your loved one is a huge act of love and kindness. But it can also take its toll. Trying to manage your own household, your job, your children and all the other responsibilities that come with adult life can be exhausting. Signing up for the duties of a caregiver may be too much to handle. You can’t help others for very long if you’re not taking care of your own mental health.
If you think a home care nurse might help, start by writing out your current routine to get a sense of the care that’s needed. Do you visit daily or weekly? Do you do the grocery shopping, or help in the garden? Don’t forget the fun stuff! Nurse Next Door can help your loved one bake, volunteer or give them time for piano lessons. Once you understand what you need, you’ll have a better idea of the services your loved one requires.